A frustrating aspect of caring for someone with dementia, is their ability to appear "normal" in front of others. This is particularly true in the earlier stages of the disease. The carer may often feel as though no one believes them when they speak of the difficulties they are experiencing.

Likewise, visitors may criticise carers for speaking "down" to the person with dementia. Such criticism really hurts as these people are oblivious to the reality of the situation. No doubt they would soon change their mind if they had to live with the person with dementia.

The best solution is to talk with these people and explain what is happening. Encourage them to continue to visit because it is important for both you and the person with dementia to keep in contact with others and be a part of social life for as long as possible.